How to Get your ex Back

never give up

Even if you feel that it’s all over there is a way to get your ex back. But you have to be patient; it will take 1-3 months. In most cases it will work.

Love never dies. I am sure you still keep good memories about someone from your past. That’s why it is very important to stay if not friends, then at least "not enemies" when you divorce or separate. These good memories can pull your partner back if you make everything right.

So you both decided to separate, or your partner left you for another woman. If you want him back remember, this is not the end of your love story.

1. Give him some time. Do not try to contact him in any way. It is very important! I know this is hard, but try to enjoy life without him, do something new and exciting, meet new people, and try to become happy without him.

2. First contact - a phone call you can make only if you feel that you are not mad on him anymore. Call him as you are just his friend, ask him how he is doing and tell him something exciting about yourself, especially what you have done recently.

3. If he didn't call you in a week after your first contact, call him again and ask if he wants to have lunch together. It is very important, that it should be just lunch - one hour time frame should sound safe for him.

4. If he says ok - great! Meet him for lunch. You should look great, happy, do not show any interest rather than just friendship. You can tell him about some guy, who really wants to date you, even if it’s just in your imagination.

When you are done with your lunch, you should leave first. Tell him that you are very busy, have a meeting or appointment.

Another variant is that he says that he does not have time to see you, or he does not want to. In this case you should say that this is fine, and then call him in a week or two. If he still does not want to see you - than you just should move forward and forget about him. But in most cases guy will say will meet you.

5. In case you already had lunch together, wait for 4-5 days. If he didn't call you, call him again. Ask him if he wants to meet for lunch again. 95% that he will say yes!

It is very important not to blame him in anything at all. You should just look happy and confident. Your goal is to make him want you back! You should show him that you are a different person now. Not the one he left.

6. Next step is to invite him to do something that he always wanted to, or to go somewhere, where you two can have a great time together. After you spent time together, it is VERY IMPORTANT that you give an initiative to a guy. Man is a hunter, don't forget about it. Otherwise he might lose his interest very soon.

Good luck and if you are patient enough in most cases you will get your husband or boyfriend back! 

The Stages in a Relationship

Knowing the stages in a relationship helps you understand where you and your partner are at, and helps explain what might appear to be puzzling behaviours. They create a road map to a healthy relationship; there are six relationship stages, as follows:

Attraction stage

In this initial stage both partners are trying to get along and please each other; both of you are trying to make things work out. At this point, neither of you will have seen your respective bad sides as you will have both been on best behaviour! This is a time for romance, and butterflies in the stomach!

Disturbance stage 

In this stage you each start to notice the differences between the two of you. Conflicts start

arising however it can be sorted out fast. In this stage, the partners either deal with this or end up breaking up.

Moulding stage

Both partners accept and appreciate each other’s weaknesses; they avoid use of force and give up the mentality of love without struggle.

Stability stage

Both partners relax their boundaries and accept that they may never change the other partner. They start giving each other mutual respect and a deeper love ensues.

Surrender stage

Partners surrender to reality and accept that relationships too have their shortcomings. This is where they learn to love each other and truly feel connected to each other. It is an indication that you are both ready to commit long term to each other.

Complete trust stage 

This is the last stage; trust at this stage becomes unbreakable. Couples start working on projects, charity and they become a true team; this is apparent to all who see them.

What if you falter at one of these stages?

Communication is the most important thing here. Listen to your partner speak first without interrupting then air out your issues. You may have to accept that you believe in different things and find a way to come to terms with this differing of opinion rather than try to change your partner’s viewpoint.

Hopefully you'll now understand what point your relationship is at, and if you do I'm sure this knowledge will help you find the right partner!

If you are already married or in a relationship but you feel like your union is getting unhealthy or is leading to a breakup, here is great article that tells you How to Fix a Broken Relationship.

I also highly recommend to read these books because they have so much useful information about relationships between women and men, lots of great advice on dating, and how to make the right choice and stay happy in a relationship.